Friday, April 17, 2009

What a long strange trip...

and it isn't really over yet. I have a feeling we'll be dealing with this for a long time.

We're in the Army again, LT Dan worked his magic and fixed it all and I got my prescription. But. We're out of the Army in May. Or medically retired temporarily anyway. His medical board things have all gone through and now I have dates, with the exception of the movers that he hasn't called yet. Add to that there is a last minute medical thing we found out about yesterday that will cause a huge amount of problem later. Peachy.

This means LT Dan will be coming home to me very soon. I have to figure out how to live with him full-time after years of living with him part-time. Things like share the remote, no, repossess the remote is probably going to be the right term, how to get him to put the toilet seat down so my hoo-hoo doesn't take any unexpected dips...So many things and really those are just the little ones. I'm a little worried about all this. I might need help. Having been pretty independent souls for all this time, this is a big adjustment for both of us.

Of course, LT Dan isn't thinking so. When I say anything he just says, "oh, it will be fine" Ummm I hope so but I think it will take some work and compromise and adjustment.

Meanwhile I'm trying to find a job, nobody wants to hire me of course, I've been out of the work place the entire time Dan has been in the service. Its frustrating and daunting and sometimes just makes me want to cry. I kick myself for not staying in the workforce and of course that isn't really helping.

Next month I'll get to see my husband. The Widget and I will need to go to the Cave for the last time to clear post, get new id's and fill out myriad papers. For my part, I'm a bit sad, I see my husbands goals and aspirations officially going out the window and no matter what he says, that has to hurt. He's strong, he'll recover and reset, I'm female, I still see the "has to hurt" part.

On the other hand, I really won't miss the 8 hour drive. I really won't miss the Cave. I really won't miss my husband because I'll have him home and we get to start the next chapter actually together in the same place at the same time.

On and forward...

3 comments:

Lee Anne said...

Sending good thoughts! It's amazing how major life events can really highlight the very real differences between men and women... Good luck with the job hunt and all of the changes. My lack of employment in the past year and a half fills me with anxiety. It's tough out there! But, it will all work out for the best.

The Mrs. said...

I can only imagine how scary the idea of getting out is. Scary to live together and scary to leave what seems normal. I havent a clue what retirement will be like for us but I'd be lying if I said I wasnt a bit scared of it! That being said I have no doubt yall will do fabulous things together.

And just buy an extra remote. : )

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